How many times have you gone into a restaurant (or any other public place for that matter) only to hear the loud noise of children. Often times, my family is the one creating that noise, hey my monkeys my circus! Anyway, there have been countless times where I wanted the Earth to swallow me whole from how bad my child was behaving in public. But it’s not just my child who tends to act out in public. I started thinking why you should mind your own business when a child is acting out, here’s why.
The reason why people need to STFU about how badly a child is acting, is because you know never what invisible battle that child and parent are fighting.
How in the world are parents suppose to teach our children how to act if we don’t take them out? For the longest time, I had anxiety taking my child out to anywhere. The thought of someone judging me and giving me bad looks and everything else that comes with taking a child out in public, freaked me out. My child suffers from ADHD and ODD. In case you don’t know what ODD is, it stands for Oppositional Defiant Disorder. My son is defiant. For any reason at anytime. It was a long journey getting him diagnosed, but we are finally getting him the help he needs. The reason why people need to STFU about how bad a child is acting, is because you never know what invisible battle that child and parent are fighting. Taking a special needs child out can be a daunting task, and instead of getting criticized, we need you to STFU. It definitely feels like walking on eggshells when out in public. The side eye and soft mumbles can be heard as my face turns hot and red because I know you are talking about me. But your passive aggressive behavior does not stand a chance against my strong willed child.
I understand there are rules we have to follow as a society. Rules such as being respectful, having manners, and being kind. Through experience (and therapy) my son will eventually get there. I want my son to be all of those things, just maybe not today in the grocery store. And we need you to STFU because you have no idea what invisible battle we fight everyday.
Hello! My name is Wendy and I am the founder of Mother Hustler. I created this site so women can read about other’s experiences and know that they are not alone. I also created this site to inspire daring entrepreneurial women everywhere.