I’ve been a mom to my only child for about 4 years now. I gotten comments like “when are you having another one?” It’s definitely an argument that stays in my head for a while. I doubt myself and start thinking “what if my son needs a sibling?” “What if I am ruining his life by not giving him a sibling”? The what ifs questions start to take over all my thoughts and I am left feeling exhausted with a question I don’t have an answer to.
There are many reasons why couples chose not to have more children. Maybe the issue was postpartum depression, or a terrible pregnancy. No matter what your personal issue was, it doesn’t make you any less of a mom. Being a mom (or parent) of an only can be a wonderful thing! You can dedicate more of your time to your child. You might be able to afford more expensive places and vacations you couldn’t otherwise afford if you had more children.
And while our hands may not be full, our hearts are.
Being a mom of an only, doesn’t make you any less of a mom. It just means your parenting situation is “different”. Honestly, who’s parenting is all the same anyway? It may be true, we don’t know the struggle of raising multiple kids, but that still doesn’t make you any less of a parent. Motherhood is not measured by how many children a women has, rather by the journey.
Motherhood is not measured by how many children a women has, rather by the journey.
Some days you win at parenting, and other days its a struggle, just like any other parent with multiple children. In the end, you are a fierce mama, that comes to the rescue when there is a boo-boo. You are the one to whom your child comes running to when they need some encouragement. And while our hands may not be full, our hearts are.
Hello! My name is Wendy and I am the founder of Mother Hustler. I created this site so women can read about other’s experiences and know that they are not alone. I also created this site to inspire daring entrepreneurial women everywhere.